Beautiful Urns and Odd Humor.
Losing someone you loved hurts. It’s okay to talk about it.

Losing someone you loved hurts. It’s okay to talk about it.

— 4 days ago with 1 note
#grief  #grieving  #loss  #hurt 
One family’s sea burial scattering service

It begins early in the morning with a small group of family members and close friends. A few are in from out of town, staying at a hotel or in the guest bedroom, but everyone is awake now and finishing up the breakfast of fresh fruit and egg & potato casserole or nursing a cup of coffee. The conversation is light and almost playful as the sun begins streaming in through the east windows. Someone brings donuts.

The little crowd of nine piles into two vehicles for the 45-minute drive to the Bay. The charter was arranged by phone two weeks ago, when plans were finalized sometime just after the memorial service to fulfill the decedent’s wish to be scattered in the Pacific Ocean. They meet the rented vessel’s captain in the office; they all shake hands and someone recognizes his voice from the phone conversations. He’s the owner and office manager as well as one of the three pilots on the rental agency’s staff.

At the Bay the sky was somewhat overcast, but weather forecasts predicted sunshine emerging in the next few hours. The group of family and friends boards the Victory, the small ship which will take them to the location of the sea burial service, a favorite fishing spot frequented by the family up to about a decade ago before they sold their fishing boat to cover some unexpected medical bills.

Ocean Scattering ShipThe vessel has been whitewashed, and probably was used for fishing at some point in its obviously lengthy service. It’s definitely not pristine, but neither is it shabby. Cushioned seats have been retrofitted into the cabin. Someone mentions the aptness of the ship’s name, since a favorite line from Scripture was “Death is swallowed up in victory.” The quote is from the first letter to the Corinthians, chapter 15, verse 54.

Death is swallowed up in victory.
O death, where is your victory?

O death, where is your sting?

The Victory is slow in the Bay, but picks up speed out in the open ocean. In compliance with EPA regulations, the scattering will take place at least 3 nautical miles out. Thankfully the fishing spot is just under 4 miles from the nearest shore. The group’s conversation mostly has to do with the ship and past sailing experiences. A friendly debate goes on for several minutes between two cousins concerning the exact definition of “lateen”. The captain smiles to himself; each party to the debate hadn’t a clue.

The wind is mild but steady, blowing the clouds away to the southeast and allowing the sun to emerge. The wind was the one of the reasons the family began looking at water scattering urns, which are biodegradable containers that holds the cremated remains so that they can be dropped into the sea, rather than poured. Pouring out the remains can be very simple as long as the wind is taken into account and the remains poured over the corresponding side of the boat. This causes the wind to blow the ashes out and away from the boat while avoiding the much-dreaded “blowback” scenario during the sea burial.

The wind wasn’t an unsurmountable concern, but once someone ran across the Memento Water Scattering Urn the choice was clear. They were sitting around the kitchen table enjoying a cheesecake left over from the funeral reception, discussing the idea of somehow tangibly communicating final goodbyes at the water burial service. A cousin from South Carolina was browsing through an array of scattering urns on her tablet, and ran across this one.

Water Scattering for Sea Burial

The tablet was passed around and all agreed that this was the perfect fit. He had been a writer, mostly as a hobbyist but published several magazine articles and had even been on staff for the local newspaper for a few years back in the mid 1960s. Two of his children were writers in different fields, he had a habit of collecting old books, and ever since publishing an article on the paper industry he often liked to make his own pulp-based paper. The sheets of biodegradable paper included looked just like the stuff he used to make.

Everyone had written a note and placed it into the urn in the days leading up to the sea burial service. One, quoting a favorite poem by George MacDonald, reads,

How strange this fear of death is!
We are never frightened of a sunset.

As the Victory nears the familiar spot, the son removes the coral-colored scattering urn from its case and passes it to his mother. Everyone is a little more serious now. The motor sputters, then quiets. Seagulls harmonize to the lapping of the waves against the hull. A few words are spoken, a prayer made, and the wife gently places the small vessel into the sea. It bobs in the water, then begins to sink.

FloatingSinkingAt RestAfter about 10 minutes the urn is no longer visible from the boat. It will biodegrade completely within the next few days, with the ashes being scattered prior to that as water infiltrates the urn. The sea burial service is over.

Everyone exchanges hugs. The sun is out in full now, and conversation slowly becomes more animated as theVictory’s motor springs to life. The captain makes a brief foray towards a shoal where seals tend to gather; there are a number visible today so the group pulls out their phones to snap pictures.

Back at the dock they thank the captain and stop for clam chowder at the Bay’s must-visit restaurant. The younger members of the group had posted a few photos and tweets to their circles, and they share some of the encouraging comments over an appetizer of fresh bread and iced tea. Treasured memories had been created this day, and it was only just past noon.

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— 2 weeks ago with 1 note
#sea burial  #sea scattering  #scattering  #victory  #o death where is your sting  #ocean burial 
You are free to fly

You are free to fly

— 2 weeks ago
#butterfly  #fly  #painting  #free  #grief 

Mexican fan palm tree memorial urn. Grow a lush palm tree from the remains of your loved one. Eco friendly and oh so breezy.

— 3 weeks ago
#palm tree  #memorials  #memorial tree  #tree  #trees  #palm 
DIY cheerleader memorial urn.

DIY cheerleader memorial urn.

— 1 month ago
#cheerleader  #memorial  #urn  #cremation  #funeral 
I will carry you with me
'Till I see you again….

I will carry you with me

'Till I see you again….

— 1 month ago with 101 notes
#grief  #longing  #goodbye 
What kind of funeral is this

What kind of funeral is this

— 1 month ago with 3 notes
#funeral  #weird 
"Perhaps our eyes need to be washed by our tears once in a while, so that we can see life with a clearer view again."
Alex Tan

"Perhaps our eyes need to be washed by our tears once in a while, so that we can see life with a clearer view again."

Alex Tan

— 2 months ago with 6 notes
#funeral quotes  #memorial quotes  #grief  #tears  #weeping  #grief quotes 
Be sure to use the right hashtag during #funerals

Be sure to use the right hashtag during #funerals

(Source: funinfunerals)

— 2 months ago with 17 notes
#funerals  #funeral humor  #morbid humor  #Jerrysdead 
Should a companion urn have a divider?
One of the most common questions we get about companion urns concerns the interior – should a companion urn have a divider?
First, a quick tip concerning inurnment. We generally recommend leaving the remains inside the plastic bag in which they come while placing the ashes into an urn. This has several advantages: it keeps things simple, adds an extra layer of security to ensure the remains do not spill or leak out, and makes it easy in case you ever need to remove the ashes.
So now to answer the question of whether or not a companion should have a divider. If you keep the remains in the plastic bag(s) as recommended above, you will not need a divider since the plastic serves as a barrier.
This can be helpful in case one of the individuals weighs significantly more than the other: if there is a fixed, permanent divider, you will need to ensure that both compartments are large enough to hold each individual’s remains. But if there is no divider, the remains can more naturally fill and fit within the open interior of the companion urn.
The Cultured Granite Companion Urn has two separate compartments for remains.

Additionally, some couple wish to be comingled – to have their ashes mixed together inside the urn. A request for comingling can fulfilled best by a companion urn with no divider.
The divider feature does vary by each individual companion urn design. In most ceramic companion urns there are no dividers, since the urn is shaped like a vase and there isn’t really a practical way to include a divider. Many cultured marble or granite companion urns are constructed with two separate compartments, complete with two separate stoppers for each individual section (our Engraved Photo Companion Urn in Granite, pictured here, has two such compartments). Metal companion urns may include a divider, and some, as in the case of several of our wood companion urns, the divider is optional, moveable, and removeable.

Should a companion urn have a divider?

One of the most common questions we get about companion urns concerns the interior – should a companion urn have a divider?

First, a quick tip concerning inurnment. We generally recommend leaving the remains inside the plastic bag in which they come while placing the ashes into an urn. This has several advantages: it keeps things simple, adds an extra layer of security to ensure the remains do not spill or leak out, and makes it easy in case you ever need to remove the ashes.

So now to answer the question of whether or not a companion should have a divider. If you keep the remains in the plastic bag(s) as recommended above, you will not need a divider since the plastic serves as a barrier.

This can be helpful in case one of the individuals weighs significantly more than the other: if there is a fixed, permanent divider, you will need to ensure that both compartments are large enough to hold each individual’s remains. But if there is no divider, the remains can more naturally fill and fit within the open interior of the companion urn.

Two separate compartments for remains

The Cultured Granite Companion Urn has two separate compartments for remains.

Additionally, some couple wish to be comingled – to have their ashes mixed together inside the urn. A request for comingling can fulfilled best by a companion urn with no divider.

The divider feature does vary by each individual companion urn design. In most ceramic companion urns there are no dividers, since the urn is shaped like a vase and there isn’t really a practical way to include a divider. Many cultured marble or granite companion urns are constructed with two separate compartments, complete with two separate stoppers for each individual section (our Engraved Photo Companion Urn in Granite, pictured here, has two such compartments). Metal companion urns may include a divider, and some, as in the case of several of our wood companion urns, the divider is optional, moveable, and removeable.

— 2 months ago with 1 note
#companion  #urn  #urns  #cremation  #double urns  #final arrangements